TIL that I'm the scary cisgendered white male oppressor. Not the cisgendered white male who doesn't always think before he speaks and fucks up sometimes: I am apparently actively trying to screw folks over.

(protip: telling someone 'you are the oppressor of everything I stand for' (paraphrased) does not engage that person in trying to correct the behavior you found offensive, but makes them want to walk away.)

uhhhh, how did someone come with that assessment about you?

I'm inclined to assume that it was their own assumptions rather than anything I actually did.