she flew back from Japan just in time to meet her dad in a hospital ward, before he got to weak to communicate and recognize people.

after the burial, she'll fly back to Japan to finish her school there. Then has to fly back here for praying on her dad's 40th day of death.

I don't know what's in her mind now. She's kinda an "outcast" in her family, cos of her dream of living in Japan

now her Mom wants her to stay, not going back to Japan anymore, just like her sister. She was asked to make a living close to the family.

her sister is kinda a favorite in the family, since she's doing almost anything the parents asked her to do.

sometimes I wonder when the parents are gonna let the grown up children to live their own lives, make their own choices

is it a must to do ANYTHING to please the parents, while they just kinda take it for granted, and demanding more?

they simply say: "Our kids should obey us. We took care of them since they were born. Now they should take care of us. Do what we told."

her luck. My family never really forgave me for leaving home and not marrying a local boy, having lots of kids.

and that's the main reason why people in my parents' generation, and generations before them, had so many children.

it was the right choice for me, but she will have to decide what is right for her. It is hard to live w/o family.

those kids were their life insurance when they're getting old. So when they see how life's changing now, they have so much anger inside.

you're so right, Godtess. Here in Asia, when you have orthodox parents and relatives, living your life as a woman is never easy

it's very hard. Parents feel they followed the rules and sacrificed. Now they want the reward. Kids want their own life.

it is very hard to say what is right.

yes, cos parents don't talk straight about what they really expect from us, they just get angry and grumpy and demanding more.

that's why it's better not to have many kids. Cos that means there are so much for the parents to sacrifice. And that will lead to...

"We've sacrificed our lives, youth, and happiness to make you all have better lives. So why don't you make us proud."

meaning: simply return the favors, kids.

I was doing my final thesis in the university, then got so exhausted and failed it. My parents, especially Dad, never forgives me for that.

when I failed the final thesis, Hubby stepped in and asked me to marry him. Good timing. But Dad never let me forget about that, cos having

me graduated from the university is one of his lifetime dreams. He thinks I'm a loser and he lets me know that from time to time.

knowing my best friend's Dad past away, makes me wonder if I could ever mend the relationship with my Dad before he check out of this world.

I suggest you do what you can, but decide what is "too much" and don't do beyond what you feel is right.

I was never able to mend the rift between me and my father, but I have no regets because I feel I did everything reasonable that I could.

now I'm dealing with my mother and it is rocky!

Mom is the sweetest person on this Earth. Her for me is simply endless. She's helping me & Dad to cope with each other

we need lots of luck to deal with one of our parents

you the very best!

THX SO MUCH!!! Hope you the same thing as well

Nikton I think we may have the same mother!

you never know!

so who said parenthood is so hard to do? Wanna be a child they could be so proud of, is much harder to do

cos we do want to live our own lives, but at the same time, we have to do their expectations as well. Fair for them, not for us

my deep condolences...

may her dad rest in peace now