My brain just keeps buzzing on:
- Which of these two options do I go with?
- Okay, made a choice between the two - but how do I get them to hurry their process along? I think the other job is going to want an answer sooner than the one I want. I don't want to tell them no, but then this other job not pan out

/hugs

- Oh god, I got to write a registration letter to my current job
- Oh god, I need to write more instructions to make things easier on the coworkers I'm leaving behind
- How awkward is my current job going to be once I tell them?????

Like, it's a good position to be in. I have two jobs I'm excited for. I've not been in a position like that before.

But because they'll ultimately change my life in slightly more drastic ways, it's just hard to focus on anything that isn't them right now

(Watch me be wrong and get neither job, but they both are acting like they're trying to move semi quickly before I accept another role so I'm hopeful I'll get at least one of them)

It's already past midnight here and I needed to go to bed like an hour ago, but instead I'm sitting here going: WHY MUST CHANGE BE SO TERRIFYING!?

/holds close and pets hair

wait did one of them say You're Hired? /peer

resignation letter is easy though

dear X, this letter is to inform you of my official resignation and two weeks' required leave (or hwoever much you have to give)" regards ZZ

oh I see they did not hire you yet. sadness

Correct about the resignation letter, though. You don't owe anyone, ever, anything more when you tell them you're leaving. You don't actually owe them two weeks, either. Giving them that is you being kind and polite, but that's as much as they should get for how they treat you.

I do like my direct manager and my coworkers. I wouldn't want to leave them in the lurch by quitting unexpectedly.

I'm not actually worried about writing the letter. It's just actually spending time writing it when I could be doing something else like video games and it's the sign that this is actually final. I'm actually leaving

that's fair. but literally like two lines when you have to.

My current job gave me a 12% raise today. TOO LITTLE TOO LATE.

All the stressing they did - basically begging me not to tell anyone else because I am the highest paid support staff by far

/tells fucking everyone

I think they may suspect I'm looking for new work

didn't you outright tell them that lmao

I told them a few months ago that I was done discussing how I don't feel the pay was fair and that I could see we weren't going to agree on that.

If they'd get their heads out of their asses and worry more about their people than their profits, they'd both have better, happier people and more profits because a better staffed and paid team can work better and more efficiently when they're feeling good.

Yup.

The job I want thinks they can give me an answer by the end of the week. They're contacting my references tomorrow. References have been given a heads up

That's great news. Fingers crossed.

I'm still so scared. I hate change. I really hope this works out. That I'm not walking into a worse job

I get it, but you've been talking about and working at getting out of this job for over a year. It will only get harder to get the fuck out if you stay and be miserable because you don't want to take an opportunity that has every chance of being better.

Let's also be realistic that these fuckwits you're leaving will very likely hire you back in an instant because you know everything and get more shit done in your scheduled working hours than others.

I wouldn't go that far. One of the things that is making it a little sad to leave is everyone there is a hard worker. They just often work harder than smarter.

Sometimes that's why they ask really dumb questions. Because they're swamped with work and just aren't thinking

But I am reminding myself that besides enjoying my coworkers - I've never been actually happy with this job

At the start the word load required was stupidly insane, the learning curb was insanity, and I left crying most days.

Working smarter means you're better than others, FYI. There's no shame or malice in saying that.

While I've moved into a position I now mostly enjoy, they were still fine underpaying me an everyone else for a year.

Them overworking because they choose to work unpaid rather than tell the bosses it's too much by leaving things undone is on them and a choice that does not bode well for them as people (mental or emotional health wise, not to mention physically).

Oh, I know I'm smarter than several of them. I suppose I'm just a little over sensitive to the team I'm with now not getting the credit they deserve for the work they do.

Last job I was doing all the work because my coworkers were lazy and useless.

This job they actually work really hard and I see them getting shafted by management and it sucks.

<.<;; although I have talked 2 people into quitting before I found a job for myself and a 3rd is teetering on the edge. I don't think she's going to last too long once I go.

The hardest part for me leaving jobs has been the people, by and large. It's said people don't leave jobs, they leave bad management/bosses. You're an amazing employee for a myriad of reasons. Zero shame in taking care of you.

You're discrediting yourself to give them props, though. That's unfair to you. You have been mistreated consistently and therefore you need change.

This company is inflexible and if they collapse, that's their problem.

You'll do what you can to document and make sure everyone's set when you leave, and that's all you can do.

No one will look out for you but you, especially in a workplace like this.

I guess I'm just nervous because the last 2 jobs I've had I've been so hopeful for an improvement. As during the interview they sound great. But when I arrive things are different

That's a fair worry, but holding yourself to what was bad in the past keeps you from moving forward.

So, my nervousness is mostly being - is this third time unlucky?

Am I choosing a job that's further away from my home and a longer commute just to find out it's actually worse than the job I left behind?

I can play devil's advocate here for you to keep things in perspective.

You can in fact stay in a job that has consistently undervalued and underpaid and overworked you (and your coworkers). You can stay in the job that you have to physically force yourself to up to several times a week and complain about bullshit your coworkers have done at least once a week.

You can stay at a job where the commute is convenient but restricts where you live in the future because of pay and opportunities there.

Or you can trust that you can find a new balance and find a way forward if this does happen to suck compared to the shitty job you've been wanting to leave for over a year.

Sorry I ended up passing out last night. Didn't mean to suddenly stop responding

And yeah, I am trying to keep that in perspective. Even if this new job isn't as advertised in the end - it's paying more and I can always find a new job again. At least it pays more while I'm miserable and if has a chance to not be miserable

I figured. Gotta get that sleep

Which I did not do. Passed out pretty quickly, but kept waking up all night long.

Stress will do that to you. =/

Got the official offer for the Lawfirm just now. /vibrates

It's happening. I'm leaving one way or the other. Just hoping to hear back quickly from the other job, but if they say no I've secured at least one job.

Hell yeah!

I just made a coworker legit cry. it's not going to stop me from leaving, but it's ncke to feel loved. And also slightly guilty

Lol, what one of my references apparently said to the job that's given me an offer.

XDDDDD

I just got another call from a recruitment agency. WHERE WERE ALL YOU PEOPLE WHEN I WANTED YOU LAST YEAR/SEVERAL MONTHS AGO

"zz is a hot commodity we must act fast now!!"

Decisions have been made. The second job got back to me and I've accepted their offer. So here's hoping the job is as good as it sounds like it will be

I thought I'd feel better once the final choice was made, but I feel so stressed. I think I just got myself in such a high level of freaking out that I can't come down. I will eventually, but just... ahhhh I start July 17th

proud of you!!!

Me and my favorite coworker cried as I told her - she gave me a reference and wanted to know how it went

But I decided to give the manger I like one last weekend before I make her life extra stressful by resigning

New job! That is not the bullshit you're dealing with now and is the one you wanted! Congrats! Take a breath, remind yourself that this is forward and that's a good thing (even if it's scary), and get some rest.