naunce: i am textbook asexual spectrum afaik. that tumblr post about the ace guy who ID'ed as bi because his attraction to men and women was both 0. that's me. but imagine my attraction is like 1% guys 2% women 97% not on - or somewhere like that

it might be more like 5% guys 10% women 85% not on but now i'm just getting into the weeds

i joke that i'm AAA for the. you know. AAA joke. but i don't actually really Fit In with the ace community ime - ALL MY ACE FRIENDS ARE SO COOL - but the community at large loveeeeeeeeees to conflate ace and aro as being the same thing and i don't fuck with that as a romance-negative person lmao

i love sex actually i love being sexually attracted to people even if i have to like consciously flip the on switch for attraction. i'm so sex positive AND would like to stop seeing ppl say they headcanon a character as ace when they mean they headcanon a character as aroace. you know

and i would ESPECIALLY like to stop seeing aroace rec lists that are like 80% asexual stories with romance in them. granted that only happened The Once but it was a pretty bummer once for me you know. i am SO tired of romance in fiction

"rar you have a girlfriend what do you mean you're aromantic" 1) mind your own business 2) it's all semantics babey 3) [gesturing above] did you not see me just complain for several paragraphs about being romance negative. i wear my salty aro flag with PRIDE.

also 4) continue minding your own business but i think if it took me 26 years before i felt romantic attraction and it was to someone i had been friends with for NINE YEARS prior to dating. well! that's still arospec.

bonus: i do prefer agender to nonbinary as a label, AND as a flag. lmao. whatever. it's my pride plurk i get to be pendantic if i want.

agender has the best flag but i do genuinely prefer to call myself trans over nonbinary becuase i PERSONALLY prefer the trans flag colors just like Significantly.

its so funny that i first called myself agender as a joke to round out the aroace AAA joke and in the end agender is the label i'm most comfortable with

not fun: crying while trying to explain to your mom that her well-meant book rec actually is worse because it still centers romantic love as being The Thing That Makes You Human

feels like all Queer Fiction is romance

RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!! GOD!!!!!!!!!!!