"god you need to hurry and get life insurance on me"

Just nearly lost my shit in front of three strangers

And since this feels a bit... idk relevant in a way?

Talking to people about

If a home out there might be good enough for her. If there is one that would let her keep some independence while keeping her from sneaking off to smoke, eat nothing but junk, drink nothing but coffee and soda

I've caught her sneaking off to smoke so many times and she sneakily ate almost all my resee's and other desserts

She lies about things in the way a child would

She isn't safe with her boyfriend just bc he can't be stern enough with her. He scolds her over coffee and the junk? But does nothing to really... help beyond that. Still buys her the things that are bad

She's diabetic and the stuff he's doing could damn well kill her

She was just in the hospital due to having her blood sugar hit 600

And like

Heh

I am going to be so hated by at least two of my siblings and her boyfriend over this but I'm really .... thinking I'm going to talk to the staff here about options

One sister gave her the bedbugs, her boyfriend is encouraging shit that could kill her, and none of them were being proactive enough in getting her safe and healthy again

But I feel so guilty still

I feel like I'm gonna be betraying mom because I can't even have a coherent conversation with her over this

Even before this hospital visit...

Trying to talk to her feels like trying to herd cats

She bounces everywhere and then gets her feelings hurt the second she feels like I'm doing or saying something "mean" (like how she shouldn't be spending time at the house that she got bedbugs from)

(or me stopping her from eating a ton of junk or smoke)

She is...... officially like trying to care for someone younger than 5 at times...

She doesn't... bathe well or wash her hands or anything without reminders

I'm afraid that's just one of the bad things about trying to take care of a loved one who needs a lot of help

Yeah

gf's grandfather had Alzheimer, so they literally had to get locks on the door that required a key. bc otherwise, he'd go out into the street or "run away"

he hated it, I saw him check the doors multiple times and even ask to go outside

but for his own safety, you just kind of have to be the "bad guy"

he only lived with them for such a long time, bc his daughter (gf's mom) was an RN and knew how to be stern

it was hard on her to take care of him about as hard as it was for him to not be able to do certain things anymore

so don't be too hard on yourself about making a tough decision, bc she clearly isn't safe with the people she's living with

and maybe everyone else will be angry for a while, but taking care of someone who needs the kind of help and care your mom does is a heavy weight

Also, I can't say whether they'd prevent her from smoking (my past experience says no), but a home would monitor her diet - right down to the drinks. I once worked in a home's food service department

nuzzles

thank you

Nurse admitted he was thinking the same as me...

I know this isn't an easy decision, so I hope that helped in some way.

a home would be so much better for her than her current situation. family prob just pissy bc oh no now they have to go out of their way to see her

yeah her boyfriend showed his true colors

oh boy. :/

bitched about where we "let her" be sent then mom slipped up and admitted he wouldn't have come see her anyway

he hates hospitals lol

mom had that look of "whoops" afterwards so I know it was something she meant to not say

I think she has been lying about how "well" he takes care of her because he lets her get away with stuff and I'm so frustrated

So.... kid logic

I know he sets her meds out but she can take them whenever she wants, then he smokes weed and they found THC in her system...

Which makes bipolar meds completely null and void

She may as well not even be on them. And that explains her periods of mania just before this

yeah, she may not be taking them regularly and that's messing her up badly

yep

I tried to talk to her about that and.... idk if it's just me but she didn't seem to be processing what I was saying

she's trying real hard but... yeah

flops