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"...we require more than willpower to achieve self-control. It turns out that our emotions are instrumental in our decision making and our actions. We just don't always realise it."

"...ultimately, we are moved to action only by emotion. That's because action is emotion... Emotion inspires action, and action inspires emotion. The two are inseparable...why don't we do things we know we should do? Because we don't feel like it. Every problem of self-control is...a problem of...emotion. Self-control is an emotional problem."

"The overindulgence of emotion leads to a crisis of hope, but so does the repression of emotion...it's self-acceptance that will save us - accepting our emotions and working with them rather than against them."

"Pain causes moral gaps...a sense that something wrong has just happened and you deserve to be made whole again. Wherever there is pain, there is always an inherent sense of superiority/inferiority...develop overwhelming emotions toward equalisation, or a return to moral equality...a value judgment we make in the face of a moral gap."

"..."fun" is the product of our value hierarchies. When we stop valuing something, it ceases to be fun or interesting to us. Therefore, there is no sense of loss, no sense of missing out when we stop doing it... These pangs of regret or embarrassment are good; they signify growth. They are the product of our achieving our hopes."

"When moral gaps persist for a long enough time, they normalise. They become out default expectation. They lodge themselves into our value hierarchy...we deserve (it)."

"Our values aren't just collections of feelings. Our values are stories... Our narratives are sticky, clinging to our minds and hanging onto our identities... We carry them around with us and define ourselves by them... Our identities snowball through our lives, accumulating more and more values and meaning as they tumble along."

"Fruitful visualisation should be a little bit uncomfortable. It should challenge you and be difficult to fathom. If it's not, then it means that nothing is changing."

"The pain may get better, it may change shape, it may be less catastrophic each time. But it will always be there. It's part of us. It is us."

"Because the only thing that can ever truly destroy a dream is to have it come true."

"...conflicts must exist because they maintain the meaning and purpose for people within the group...it is the conflict that maintains the hope...hope requires everything being fucked. The sources of hope...are the same sources of division and hate... Hope is, therefore, destructive. Hope depends on the rejection of what currently is."

"Pain is the universal constant of life...human perception and expectations warp themselves to fit a predetermined amount of pain... The pain is always here. What changes is your perception of it...affects all perceptions and judgments. Everything adapts and shapes itself to our slight dissatisfaction. And that is the problem with the pursuit of happiness."

"Trying to eliminate pain only increases your sensitivity to suffering...to see dangerous ghosts in every nook...to a perception of a certain amount of pain and dissatisfaction...pain is the experience...hope is ultimately self-defeating and self-perpetuating."

"You are supposed to suck at it. Just accept the suckage. Embrace the suckage. Love the suckage."

"...the opportunities to grow from that pain are constant in life. All that is required is that we don't numb it, that we don't look away... Pain is the source of all value."

"Variety is not freedom. Variety is just different permutations of the same meaningless shit... More stuff doesn't make us freer, it imprisons us with anxiety over whether we chose or did the best thing...more dependent on the endless cycles of hope...variety is meaningless...you are not free."

"...the most meaningful freedom in your life comes from your commitments, the things in life for which you have chosen to sacrifice... Greater commitment allows for greater depth."