I'm simplifying, because discussing who is married to who is weird... but basically my sister-in- law sent me and the boy a message about planning for Thanksgiving.

her message included the offhand "I know you guys are juggling a lot..."

woman....my mother is dying. I am not Thankful. I am not thinking about holidays. and I'm sure as hell not spending it anywhere that isn't by my mom's side (time willing) or with my step-dad (if things follow the expected timeline).

don't ask me about what sides we can bring

fuck off

I'm being good and not biting her head off because there are factors (aren't there always) and I'm being respectful of that. but for fuck's sake. this seems like it should have been a no-brainer. at the VERY least, leave me off the message and just send it to the boy.

ma'am??? read the room?????

right?!

I'm complaining here so I don't just go off on her

I'm not even so much personally upset and just... baffled and incredulous. like.... how did this seem like a good idea?

#YIKES

yeah that's tone deaf as fuck...

I'm glad it's not just me. l-lol

not at all. even if she didn't intend it to be rude it still was

UMMMMM ....

yikes

I can't...

Oof.