How do you help someone with ADHD remember tasks and learn? This is an adult I’m referring to. I keep having to say the same things over and over, but the same mistakes are repeated. 🤦🏻♀️ I’m trying to have as much patience as possible, but everyone has their limits! 🤪
They need to WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN
I set notifications on my phone for basically everything
It’s nice to be helpful, but ultimately it’s on the person with ADHD to set reminders, make notes, and see a therapist/psychiatrist. You gotta form those healthy habits.
Yes LOL Write everything. Google calendar. Alarms.
LISTS
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when i make an appointment on the phone i literally do not let them finish the phone call until i repeat what i just put in google calendars down at least twice. you gotta be proactive
repeating things back is super helpful in this house, even though vincent's not an adult, to get him to remember stuff we make him say it.. 9 times out of 10 he remembers better if he's said it himself instead of just heard someone else say it.
echoing the above - if they’re not writing down your instructions, i’d stop and say “do you want to grab your notebook? you’ll need to remember this”
also, i would ask them what tools or things would help them remember things. i agree it does help to repeat things out loud. usually if i’m at work and someone verbally gives me a directive, i’ll listen and then, if i can’t write it down, i’ll quickly summarize and say “ok so you need me to do X by this day because Y, right?”
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My SO was diagnosed with adult ADHD and just turned 30. It's definitely a struggle for both of us. She's got the memory of a mayfly, as one of the symptoms.
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You need the patience of a saint, essentially. Mistakes will always be repeated, and boundaries crossed. Having these things written down into a tablet so-to-speak is helpful when inevitable conflicts arise.
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I've driven out of town so many times after X amount of heated arguments. Ultimatums don't really work. The person has to want to improve (seeking medication options, therapy etc.) If they have no intention of working with their ADHD, definitely bounce.
Lists are absolutely essential. And multiple alarms with reminders, and use the calendar on the phone with reminders