There's another girl there about the same age and she keeps picking on Aesa but it's like every day now. It happened in front of me 3 days out of 5 last week and today again

Aesa comes in and the other one tells "No not Aesa" or "No play for Aesa" or when I pick her up at the end of the day "No not Aesa's mom". The nurses try to talk about it so nothing against how they seem to react but I think it is growing out of control

Now she seems sad everytime I drive her there and she keeps negotiating not to go at all...

Nurses need to watch carefully and correct this little one when she says this. I would talk to them, get your point across in a serious manner. Unfortunately in life we all have to deal with bullies, life is unfair at times. Bless your baby girl.

Well i talked to them today and they'll try to help correct this behaviour. But the issue is more that it started to affect my little girl

Stay on the daycare. It’s not okay, and they need to handle it. As for Aesa, all you can do is build up her self-esteem at home. Make sure she knows she is loved and valued for intrinsic things like being kind, trying hard, etc.

Let her know that not everyone is going to be kind, not everyone is going to have a nice Mum or Dad who will teach them how to share or to be a good friend.

Get the daycare to keep an eye on it and when the little bully says no to Aesa, have them step in and either remove that child so Aesa can play or make sure she connects with someone else who is less aggressive.

My child has been bullied his whole school experience for being on the autism spectrum and different to his peers. He has amazing self-esteem though and we discuss and unpack why people are unkind. He is 12 now and their negative messaging has not injured his self-view.

EvangelineMiles: totally agree! Wise words from experience.

LailaLaP: thanks for your words. They said they will pay even more attention so Aesa can feel confident enough to ignore the other one

EvangelineMiles: thanks a lot. Actually she is quite social and goes well with the other kids. She's generally not scared either.
But this one little girl managed to get Aesa to adopt another behaviour and to back off instead of feeling at her place

Anyway we told them we won't let it go any further and they have to make sure some limits aren't crossed anymore

That’s awesome. I hope they follow through!