so. my mom's uncle died last tuesday. the wake started on wednesday, and my mother, brothers, and i went everyday.

my parents have been separated since last september, so i didn't think to tell my dad until thursday evening because i thought he wouldn't think much of it.

the day after, one of my uncles told me that my dad dropped by the wake at around 3am to extend his condolences.

to make matters worse, i just found that my dad was working in the province this week. so he essentially made an 8 hour trip just to spend 10 minutes at the wake of someone he isn’t even related to.

my heart is so heavy. and i feel like a total pile of garbage for underestimating my dad

blargh

It's not just about how someone acts in hard times though, it's the little every day stuff, being there all the time, that matters. You're totally justified in how you feel about your dad. Though it was nice of him to take the time for this.