It's an Asexual thing... I think

So during my first HIAF stream a few days back and as we were... Oh I don't know, maybe 20 minutes or so from the ending and my brother comes in.

He mostly wanted to talk to me about something entirely different but stuck around to watch the end just cuz it was there.

When it got to the bit with (spoilers) Fly approaching Chuck after he turned back into a human and wrapping his arm around him, my bro said "they're gay".

Of course I immediately rush in and correct him by saying "They're first cousins!!"

And I get that he didn't remember they were related since he'd only seen them once. I get that. Really.

But like

UGH...

Even if they weren't related, just because they're close do you really have to assume they're in a relationship like that? Does friendship really matter less or something??

It's hard to explain

I just get really frustrated by that

Of course I have similar feelings towards most relationships in shows/movies/fanon.

ESPECIALLY if I headcanon one or both of the characters as asexual

It's so tiring

I just want friendships and family centered movies/shows/fanons

In most cases I honestly couldn't care less about canon/fanon ships and all that

-pulls on face-

And these feelings have been especially strong lately because I keep glaring over a Wakfu

Which has a canon relationship I LOATHE

I love Yugo and I love Amalia, but I just DO NOT want them to become a couple

I DO NOT WANT IT

I want them to be friends :I

It's the equivalent of Sonic getting with Amy to me. I just dun waaan it

-MAKES POUTY FACE-

I don't think I've given my feelings a proper explanation... I just don't know how to phrase it.

Like with Fly and Chuck. It's really eye opening when someone who doesn't catch that they're related automatically assumes they're infatuated with one another just because they become closer.

you can do it! stream-of-consciousness writing is the best way to learn about yourself

Haha it's true! I think my last little statement was closer to what I have been feeling.

I just hope it makes sense

8Ic feel free to ignore me if I"m just blowin smoke out my ass but it sounds like you're less disgusted with the idea of characters being in a relationship than the way a lot of people tend to --

write/portray/belive that friendship is LESS than romantic love

YEAH THAT

Exactly that

Fuckin phrased it better than I ever could

Probably sounded like a total asshole XD

XD It DID kind of come off as "I HATE LOVE AND PEOPLE LIKING LOVE MAKES ME MAD"

but I DO understand what you mean

Ugh I'm really sorry

I didn't mean for it to come off that way

I'm terrible with words, honestly

Well now that you know what your deal-i-o is, you can tell folks!

because that IS an unfortunate fact that we deal with in a lot of media today

Yeah... Thanks for this, Wolfy. And, again, really REALLY sorry I came off as such a jerkhole

8I because it got me thinking 'wow I bet Stabby will hate the romances in MY stories then. Wait. That doesn't sound right. She's not like that." because I remembered that I just write romance and friendship

very similarly and see them similarly

and remembered the fandoms you're a part of and the shit that's shoved down your throat

I'd never hate your stuff because you write about romance and stuff! Or even hate them to begin with! Gosh no! Its exactly how you put it: friendships are often seen as lesser relationships than romantic ones--

in most of the media I see and hear about.

And it's frustrating

It is frustrating!

And I think it goes hand in hand with my spectrum of ace-ness. Does it make me less of a person if I only want friendships and don't have a desire to be in a relationship with anyone?

It is easy to feel that way trust me. I know that feel.

While I AM an ace of hearts, it is very easy to feel like less of a person because there's no media out there for you

which is why it is important to let shippers ship because they may be using that ship to represent themselves. We don't know what demons folks are dealing with

Does it make me a bad person if I want characters I headcanon my spectrem of ace in a character, despite what popular canons and fanons?

Well of course!

however PREACH DAT SHIT when it comes to folks saying friendship is less. Friendship, family love, and romantic love are all equal

and it's their business to let YOU interperate your favorite characters your way. Nobody hurts anybody

A good way to phrase things would be 'sonic and sally being awesome platonic friends makes me MUCH happier than them being a romantic couple'. you aren't damning shippers and arent inviting pain on yourself

Right!! But I'm always afraid someone'll get mad at me because of my feelings... I'd never purposely step on people's toes because I totally get that we all want to be represented and people should headcanon--

What they want so long as it's harmelss!

oh someone's always gonna be mad that you don't like X thing

But... I don't know. I worry a lot about it for some reason.

but so long as you're gentle, they'll look like the asshole

to help you out, I WILL SHARE AN ACE HEADCANON WITH YOU

PLEASE DO

I play and write and imagine Wreck-It-Ralph as aro-ace. He claims it 'just isn't in his programming'

Haha I love that XD

with the sequel on the horizon, naturally I'm a little worried since what USUALLY HAPPENS in sequels is love interests are introduced

But that isn't going to stop me

just like it's not gonna stop folks shipping him with whoever

playing ralph as ace makes me feel good because I myself am ace, even though I'm not aro-ace

and I don't get upset when I see him shipped romantically. I just do my thing and let folks do theirs

8I nobody can touch me

Right right! Makes perfect sense to me!

I think in time, you'll find peace with fandom stuff

I hope so. Like I said, I think it's more of me feeling really insecure and afraid of other people. Or that's at least a big part of it.

use that energy to create good things

CREATE the content you wish there was

just like I'm writing an epic about a big chubby girl with a WEREWOLF ARM who is strictly ace

be that change

OH MY GOSH XD

JUST THE ARM

HER NAME IS SITO

SHE CAN BENCHPRESS HER BEST FRIEND WHO IS A CENTAUR

I LOVE HER ALREADY

this is her and said bff

AWW LOOK AT THEM!!

So adorable! ;O;

Sito is going to be for all the girls who felt broken or not pretty enough or weird. She is going to have an awesome adventure

I bet! I hope to see more of her in the future!

she and Trihps have an extremely sibling bond

Also... I am legit crying. You helped me figure out something that's been bothering me a really long time and has been really scary for me

Thank you Wolfy

AWW dang that's so cute! This story of your's is gonna be so good!!

8I wanna know a secret tho?

Sito's story is my oldest story. Sito came before JW and Maurice

Seriously??

ORIGINALLY. Sito was a boy named Otis and he had a generic fantasy story

You're pulling my leg

but a couple years ago I realized that was kinda boring

I changed Sito into a girl

suddenly EVERYTHING WAS DIFFERENT

and I was like OH FUCK WHAT ELSE CAN I SWAP FROM THE NORM

she's a big girl too. and her goal is to not get skinnier her goal is to RESCUE HER PARENTS AND BECOME A BADASS

and I just. USED that energy of me being mad about things that didnt exist to bring them into the world

and I know you can do that too

I LOVE ALL OF THISSS. I'm sort of surprised we don't see these guys more often from you.

And I want to

I really do

You can do it! I'm so glad I was able to give you the tools to help you figure stuff out!

TAKE UP YOUR THUNDERBOLT, STABBY, AND CREATE

I WILL!! I will try my best! ;___;