[RL] so some crazy thing is going on right now and I'm seriously like a little torn on this decision thing like okay
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don't mind me and my not rp related plurk I'm just ??? so any input would be good but basically here's the situation
-I've been living with my grandmother in her basement apartment again for the last 6 mos after breaking up with my live-in boyfriend
-2 months ago my homeless brother and his girlfriend moved in to live in my livingroom and it kind of sucks
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-my 2 friends live in this 4 bedroom house. recently their third housemate announced he was moving to Nashville on a whim. We'll call him Z
-Z has only been paying like 25 dollars a month for rent because he's a piece of shit. he burned a lot of bridges in the move.
-Z found out today that Nashville won't work and is coming back at 6 a.m.
-my 2 friends want to rent out his room ASAP before he gets back because he was a shitty roommate
-They say that I can pay anything I can afford in rent like literally anything would be better than 25 a month, because they can actually afford rent between the two of them by themselves it just sucks
-but they want me there by 6 a.m. tonight so he can't move back in
-I'M A PRE-PLANNER I PLAN AHEAD SO HARD this is so abrupt ???. In theory I could talk to my grandparents and I'm sure they'd let my homeless bro and his gf still live in that apartment OR
-my 2 friends say that my bro and homeless gf can move into the enclosed back porch if they contribute to rent
so basically this all sounds too good to be true, my vision is clouded by sudden possibilities, I feel like I may not be thinking this through and may be missing something, THOUGHTS?
What I say is
for now, move enough shit in to make it look like the room is rented out so they can argue to keep him out
I think whatever you do I wouldn't go with your bro and his gf joining you at your friends
that just sounds like it could end up real not good
a real mess
that way you have a bit more time to think about whether or not you'll ACTUALLY move in
ᴅᴇᴍɪ.
9 years ago
maybe just go and be there at 6 and say you're moved in so he can't, then hash out specifics of who is moving where later?
because all they need is to be able to show him his room's gone and them's the breaks
it's not like he'll periodically check back like IS EMMY STILL IN MY ROOM
yeah I mean, he moved, he gave up his room
it's not like he has some binding contract to it
if they don't want him there they don't have to let him back in
i agree about your homeless bro though, like as shitty as it is it'll be a mess to moe him with you
*move
regardless of someone having the room tho
romanoff
9 years ago
thirding what others are saying about moving in enough stuff to say 'hey my room now asshole'
romanoff
9 years ago
and then hashing out more deets later one when everyone has time to think
yeah like, they can say you're taking the room and that you're getting shit together to move it
and if that doesn't work out, oh well, none of his damn business
fleshy barbie
9 years ago
yeah it sounds like even if you end up having to tell your friends "actually, this isn't going to work as well as i thought," they seem to care more about keeping Z out than renting the room
this is all very reasonable advice
romanoff
9 years ago
hell, you don't even have to MOVE stuff
romanoff
9 years ago
just be like uh i'm moving stuff in tomorrow dickweed get out
I'd just p much have to sleep there tonight
ĸaren is
9 years ago
it just not possible to tell the guy he just can't have the room? But yeah, I think everyone's right that it's a pretty easy fix to do something small tonight and decide later.
a large portion of their concern is getting z out, and the fact that I can contribute like 4x the amount z did to rent is a big factor because literally none of our other friends have stable jobs or an ability
to pay rent or the desire to live there, and every bit they don't have to pay themselves is a relief to them so
zalice
9 years ago
Gonna add my voice to the whole 'help them get rid of their unwanted tenant'
zalice
9 years ago
And wait, not just so you have a chance to figure stuff out for your own, but also so that they're not negotiating from a place of desperation
it's complicated because z is also like a friend of theirs, so they don't want to just say 'you can't move back in because you're useless as a roommate'
zalice
9 years ago
As hard as it is, your friends may have to man/woman up to tell Z 'dude, we love you, but your rent *sucks'
romanoff
9 years ago
^ this
zalice
9 years ago
It's kind of an important thing to say at this point
zalice
9 years ago
Because they're being a shitty roommate, and if they don't tell, then you might be under pressure to stay with them if Z is circling, waiting for the next opening
romanoff
9 years ago
yeha, that's the only downside
ĸaren
9 years ago
Just remember you don't want to be the focus of the negativity born of this, either. It's nice to be a wingman, but if it's going to earn you unwanted grief, that might be something that's hard to see coming.
zalice
9 years ago
That too
They're pretty good guys honestly, so the negativity won't really be a factor. I've been friends with them for years.
and idgaf about Z because he's kind of a dick so if he gets pissed at me, whatevs.
but either way I'm not gonna tell them how to handle their whole situation, and they've been looking for a replacement roommate for a while now so I think I'm gonna do what you guys said
move the shit in for tonight, see how it goes, don't move ALL my shit just enough to function and help cockblock their dick ex roommate
then talk to my grandparents later about my homeless bro situation
zalice
9 years ago
Yeah
thanks guys
zalice
9 years ago
Definitely talk with people. Also, I didn't catch all of what was said up there, but don't do any negotiating in your homeless bro's place--let him be the one to actually work out
zalice
9 years ago
details with this house you're helpng cockblock
zalice
9 years ago
That's if he's interested in rooming with them too
yeah. I'm at work so this is like. hard to communicate and hash out
zalice
9 years ago
... you probably already planned that--aah, ok
but I facebook messaged him with some deets so hopefully he'll be up to speed enough for a quick conversation after work
but thank all ya'll for weighing in w ur input, I greatly appreciate
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