tarochan
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whoa firefox and plurk go hand in hand. man relationships can be so complex sometimes, the boyfriend and I have been together for a year now
tarochan
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the disagreements have definitely been on the increase and I have thought about leaving quite a few times. Alot of it is because i've been
tarochan
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hurt in previous relationships and I want to flee before he gets the chance to really hurt me. ... arghhhh so much confusion but i think i'm
tarochan
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the cause of most of my frustrations, trying to force him to leave in a way to protect myself ... not really fair to him. I really love him
tarochan
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alot though
tarochan
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bleh alright enough sappy poo time to study lol.. I hope everyone is having a good day
Mr.Pheeny
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there are always going to be fights, especially when you're expecting them. still better to work them out and be with him if you love him
Mr.Pheeny
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there'll always be more pain out there, so you gotta get the joy wherever you can
tarochan
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agreed i feel like since i'm expecting the fights i'm attracting them, i'm going to try to work it out and hold on as much as possible
Mr.Pheeny
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it's really easy to nitpick the other when you're still able to walk away. that's why I got engaged. 
tarochan
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lmao!!! hmmm that is true though, although the recent increase in fights have halted any thoughts of getting married :/
tarochan
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i'm going to try to bite my tongue alot more and walk away instead of snapping , i think that will help to get things on the right track
Mr.Pheeny
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this'll sound corny, but consider reading men are from mars, women are from venus. it's a little cheesy but it does bring up valid points
Mr.Pheeny
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mostly in how men and women communicate and the common causes of miscommunication
tarochan
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what does it say about how men communicate?
Mr.Pheeny
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a lot, but one of the bigger bits is about how men will try to solve your problems rather than just listening to how you feel
Mr.Pheeny
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men also would rather be distracted from their problem for a bit than immediately discussing it
Mr.Pheeny
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another big one is that men take things really personally. so if you say you don't like something they did, they interpret it as meaning
Mr.Pheeny
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that you don't like them
tarochan
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ahhh that bit already explains alot though, I was thinking he just wasn't listening to a word I was saying
tarochan
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it seems almost as if he's always trying to be my night in shining armor too which i don't mind to an extent but anything I have
tarochan
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a problem with he tries to solve without giving me the time of day to do it myself
tarochan
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do they have an online version of that book?
Mr.Pheeny
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told ya! he needs to read the book too so he can understand what it is you're looking for when you talk
Mr.Pheeny
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not sure, but it seems likely. they sell the hell out of that franchise. the only thing you really need is the original book though
tarochan
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this'll help us out alot, i found the ebook for ten bucks but i'm going to see if i can torrent it lol
Mr.Pheeny
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it helped us out. I used to just think she was whining and was never happy with anything I did, but it turns out I was just misinterpreting
tarochan
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is John Gray the author?
Mr.Pheeny
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yep
tarochan
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sweet .. torrenting the audio book now
tarochan
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thanks for the advice by the way i really appreciate it 
Mr.Pheeny
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you're welcome, I hope it helps! not all of it is useful, but the
Mr.Pheeny
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oops, meant to backspace the rest of that. it's not all useful, but what it does offer helps a lot