Compared to all of the things she's done/said in the past idk six months since she's been here this takes the cake

We were talking about my brother. Now my brother is incredibly well behaved. We don't really have to discipline him.

He comes home, does his homework before playing video games, etc.

He's a pretty great kid as far as kids go and compared to me at his age he's a saint.

He has a lot of bad habits built up and a huge amount of anger.

All of these things stem from the fact that he was abused for three years. Socially he's relaxed, but he has a very explosive temper and regularly threatens to murder things in v violent ways.

This is all learned behaviour from the man who abused him.

And when it comes to this stuff my mom is a wet noodle and often times doesnt talk to him or discipline him when things get out of hand because he just collapses.

So we're having some issues when it comes to discipline.

My mom also has no problems letting other people discipline him because then she isn't the bad guy.

Again, all related to the abuse he suffered.

Abuse THEY suffered.

He really needs therapy and IDK karate classes

(because of my cousin we cant really afford either one lol)

I was talking to my cousin about all of this and she decided that since the abuse was short term (a year) that they both should be over it by now.

I told her uh no the abuse lasted almost four and it was bad enough that I fucking left because I had an out.

And I stayed gone because of it. I left the fucking /country/.

I told her he was verbally, mentally, and sexually abused by that man and it was really fucking understandable that, being abused during your formative years, you develop shitty habits.

It made me fucking ill.

You don't get to decide when someone "gets over" abuse.

Especially if you're not involved in any way.

SHE HAS A PSYCOLOGY DEGREE.

im screaming

And it makes me fucking scared of what shit she's putting in my brothers head

holy shit

thats the feeling i get whenever my mom is doing something weird when it comes to peoples feelings since she also is a psychologist xD

but holy actual shit

like can she not

why do you talk to her

i would gently stop if at all possible :T;

Not only does she have a psychology degree she's Mormon so she's doubling up on the shit like

When we were talking she told me that he was raging at GTA and was tired of hearing it so she was like

Don't you think the lord finds those things really ugly

So instead of teaching him right from wrong because it's morally right she leans in the manipulation of religion to get her way

If you need to use religion to differentiate between right and wrong it isnt an issue of morality

And I wish I could not talk to her.

i think also maybe you should try and talk to your brother like in a sibling way

idk if you guys are in the relationship that you can talk to him but maybe be like SO OUR COUSIN IS BEING HORRIBLE AND IM HERE FOR YOU

/but in a also maybe tone down on the violent language in front of her sort of way

If he or my mom ever had two seconds to themselves I might be able to. But she just hovers all the God damned time