hmm....u need to look at other things in the equation - look at the point of view : "for the greater good ". or when there is a grey area- follow the way you want it (like what Ah Shua says above)
what a mother sees as good. is not what the child sees as good. Wat a friend sees as good is not the same as what you see. Follow urs. We can only advice. decision is yours.