The Emperor
2014-02-24T20:46:45.000Z
[That confession meme on tumblr] You guys help, should I keep posting and responding to all these anon confessions...?
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The Emperor
2014-02-24T20:47:31.000Z
This is not the sort of response I was expecting.
The Emperor
2014-02-24T20:47:58.000Z
Like, is it arrogant of me to post them all like this, or...
The Emperor
2014-02-24T20:48:38.000Z
Or maybe someone is pulling my leg or something. I hope I'm responding to them constructively oh god
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EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T20:51:03.000Z
Are you getting a lot of love confessions??
The Emperor
2014-02-24T20:51:10.000Z
...yeah
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T20:51:15.000Z
I am not shocked
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T20:51:22.000Z
But hey, don't worry about coming off arrogant
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T20:51:37.000Z
But if it makes you uncomfortable, there's no rule that you have to reply to them all
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T20:51:49.000Z
something to do to make it just one post might be to take a screen cap of all the asks?
The Emperor
2014-02-24T20:51:51.000Z
I mean it's super flattering, but I don't want to keep answering them and posting them and making myself comes off as.. I dunno
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T20:51:55.000Z
and then just address it all at once
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T20:52:05.000Z
No, I get you!
The Emperor
2014-02-24T20:52:08.000Z
Oh yeah, that makes sense
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T20:52:33.000Z
But don't worry about coming off conceited or anything. That's not what's been coming across as far as I can see
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T20:52:58.000Z
You've been really gracious in your replies, and it's a meme, a lot of people get love confessions for memes like this I think
The ♥ Lovers
2014-02-24T20:55:35.000Z
Honestly I'd go ahead and answer them--I'm sure the people who sent them would appreciate it
The ♥ Lovers
2014-02-24T20:55:54.000Z
Agreeing with what Em said about you handling it gracefully/graciously
The ♥ Lovers
2014-02-24T20:56:18.000Z
You're not obligated to answer them but at least in that I know people get weird/nervous about love confessions and if you didn't answer one the person might think you were weirded out?
The ♥ Lovers
2014-02-24T20:56:32.000Z
Not to put pressure on you, but just additional incentive if it was a thing you already meant to do
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T20:57:48.000Z
A big screen cap post would also help avoid any concerns of dash spam, though I wouldn't worry about that either. The people who follow you dun care, it's a meme.
The Emperor
2014-02-24T20:58:15.000Z
that's true
The Emperor
2014-02-24T20:58:26.000Z
I was worried about posting too much too
MOVED
2014-02-24T20:59:09.000Z
Yeah, and I mean, it's your blog. You get to post what you want. If people don't like it they'll unfollow but who curr
MOVED
2014-02-24T20:59:46.000Z
Mr. Irresistible
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T21:00:05.000Z
The UltraCrush Suplex Husbando
MOVED
2014-02-24T21:00:37.000Z
Kevin's P4U title
The Emperor
2014-02-24T21:01:06.000Z
Only on tumblr
The Emperor
2014-02-24T21:01:56.000Z
As long as I'm not touching your precious Nanako, right Banchou
MOVED
2014-02-24T21:02:04.000Z
Boy, please. Tumblr just gives people an anonymous means to approach you.
MOVED
2014-02-24T21:02:15.000Z
I'll kill you, protein head.
The Emperor
2014-02-24T21:02:52.000Z
heh
MOVED
2014-02-24T21:03:54.000Z
I feel kinda bad lmfao but maybe that's selfish?? But I know Rhi and I keep encouraging you to put yourself out there. Sorry it made things
MOVED
2014-02-24T21:04:09.000Z
awkward for you in some ways.
The Emperor
2014-02-24T21:07:11.000Z
No no, I mean I want to put myself out there too. It's not like I don't enjoy attention. I just don't like the prospect of making people sad or uncomfortable, since it's sometimes a fine line
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T21:08:22.000Z
Don't worry
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T21:09:02.000Z
Whatever sadness they have, it's self-inflicted. You don't write 'SINGLE N' LOOKIN'' on your chest or anything. And I totally get feeling bad anyway for not being readily available for others' every need,
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T21:09:11.000Z
at the end of the day you just gonna be you and let the chips fall where they may
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T21:09:59.000Z
But from my perspective, nothing you are doing personally is creating this other than you being a nice cute boy
The Emperor
2014-02-24T21:11:28.000Z
Hey, if I could date every single girl or guy who has eyes for me and make their lives better, I would.
The Emperor
2014-02-24T21:12:48.000Z
But it doesn't work that way and I don't ever take the prospect of a relationship lightly when making decisions
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T21:14:57.000Z
And there's your life, too
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T21:15:03.000Z
you also deserve to have a better life
The ♥ Lovers
2014-02-24T21:15:05.000Z
haha as someone who cries over rejecting people I feel your pain 8C
The ♥ Lovers
2014-02-24T21:15:11.000Z
But yeah really, it's your blog and you can do whatever you want
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T21:15:25.000Z
and to make choices about your life for your own benefit
EMbarrassing
2014-02-24T21:15:47.000Z
I'd like to think anyone with a modicum of self-awareness would realize that
The Emperor
2014-02-24T21:18:54.000Z
Well of course! It's not like I don't have people I feel really strongly for for a variety of reasons
The Emperor
2014-02-24T21:20:18.000Z
And of course, the reason I've avoided relationships for a while now is because I want to reconnect with myself and my own happiness before I attempt to enter someone's life, no matter who it ends up being.
тнє ☬ нєямιт
2014-02-24T21:27:35.000Z
Genuine nice guy Kevin.
тнє ☬ нєямιт
2014-02-24T21:28:31.000Z
You disgust me with your concern and compassion for other people. And don't even get me started on your gross honesty bullshit.
The Emperor
2014-02-24T21:36:04.000Z
I fight for my friends
ushiwakamaru
2014-02-24T21:36:57.000Z
echoing jive genuine nice guy kevin
Regretro
2014-02-24T23:26:04.000Z
anonymous confessions are always kind of strange to deal with but I'm gonna echo that I think you've been handling them really well/thoughtfully so far and have nothing to worry about!
Եђє ℒยรԵ
2014-02-25T00:31:04.000Z
This is why you're getting confessions with all your consideration and thoughtfulness and good-hearted. BE MEANER. HARDENED MAN.
But anon things are just weird because being anon gives so much power.
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:24:16.000Z
I always viewed stranger / non-close friends crushes as less important, no matter how bent out of shape the bearer gets.
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:25:45.000Z
Think of it like this: if they don't know you extremely well prior to crush development, then they dont know YOU, so it's not your concern
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:27:08.000Z
How attached they let themselves become to this concept of you they've created and convinced themselves of their affections for.
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:28:29.000Z
So don't worry about their feelings past a certain point, when they're ultimately the one responsible for cultivating them. If someone is
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:30:01.000Z
Close to me, only then do I try to handle their feelings for me with a deeper level of concern. I think too many people, especially internet
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:31:25.000Z
Dwellers, have learned this ultimately unhealthy mindset where they believe Love/lust is this mysterious, uncontrollable force, something
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:32:44.000Z
They have zero control over, that happens TO them. Instead of something they participate in. Which leads to this attitude of entitled
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:34:10.000Z
"YOU lead me on, YOU made this happen, YOUR mere existence is responsible for my emotions, so what are YOU going to do about them?!"
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:34:36.000Z
Which is, frankly, total bullshit.
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:35:40.000Z
I don't necessarily blame people for thinking that way initially, but aside from a general level of kindness and politeness, you really
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:37:55.000Z
Don't owe anyone anything, not even an explanation for your lack of interest. Thank them for the implied compliment, if you like. But its
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:39:11.000Z
Not arrogant in the slightest to publicize what they sent you, or to express confusion at the sheer volume of it.
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:40:57.000Z
Its one thing to be nice, its another to coddle delusional attitudes, society instilled or not.
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:42:02.000Z
It sounds mean, maybe. But if they knew you well, they should be able to mention it in person. If not, you're not responsible for their
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:43:49.000Z
Crushes on you. I got damned good at ignoring or shutting down people, early on. But at 13, the logic of "You don't even know me, you can't
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:44:19.000Z
Possibly be in love with me" seemed pretty straightforward.
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:45:05.000Z
And there's a gross double standard in your case, since you're male.
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:45:44.000Z
So be kind if you want, but dont let anything guilt trip you.
MOVED
2014-02-25T01:46:11.000Z
Hopefully that makes sense?
The Emperor
2014-02-25T02:33:38.000Z
Oh, totally! Thanks for thinking and formulating a response to that. I think it'll definitely serve me well to steel myself as you say.
The Emperor
2014-02-25T02:33:54.000Z
I might just do a general response to the rest of them and just leave it at that.
The ♥ Lovers
2014-02-25T02:51:41.000Z
Wow that's really well-put * A *
The ♥ Lovers
2014-02-25T02:52:28.000Z
And so true--I agree that to an extent you can't help the way you feel but I do believe that individuals are responsible for cultivating their feelings and getting their hopes up without any solid hope
The Emperor
2014-02-25T02:52:45.000Z
Yeah, that was really thoughtful. Thanks Rhi! See, this is because we know each other well already~
MOVED
2014-02-25T03:38:37.000Z
Agreed with everything Rhi said, and I also think Tumblr can be a bad place for that because everyone takes their own feelings so very, very seriously, and are especially encouraged to there?
MOVED
2014-02-25T03:39:20.000Z
Not that most of the confessions you've gotten so far sound like they're someone leaning toward OMG HOW DARE YOU LEAD ME ON levels of obsession, but it is something to consider. Tumblr has a tendency to tell
MOVED
2014-02-25T03:39:40.000Z
people that their feelings >>> everyone else's, so people get really fucking entitled beyond reasonable expectation.
MOVED
2014-02-25T03:40:54.000Z
which is probably why the best tactic is to gracefully accept the compliment for what it is and feel more at ease just straight-up telling people you aren't interested.
MOVED
2014-02-25T03:41:28.000Z
if they don't get the opportunity to stew in it, they'll move on faster. a lot of these people are probably young and as much as we joke about it, you are very anime, which makes me worry for anyone who
MOVED
2014-02-25T03:42:01.000Z
develops an interest in you superficially. I mean, there's obviously more to you than that, and we all know it, but I doubt most casual observers of your blog stop and think about it.
The Emperor
2014-02-25T15:39:05.000Z
Yeah, that's a good view of how tumblr is-- no, how young people can be with relationships. I can sense a lot of this same idea with those High Schoolers I'm around now...
The Emperor
2014-02-25T15:39:49.000Z
They don't even need an anon ask to be in your face about "interest".
The Emperor
2014-02-25T15:40:17.000Z
Ughhh that's what this reminds me of
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