I can try? i don't know if I'd be amazing at it but i can give it a go.

Okay so basically, I have a huge crush on this guy. He's great, he's cute, and he's bipolar as well, rapid cycle, so he totally gets a lot of what I go through.

And he comes to me today and tells me that he and his wife decided that he should get back into the dating scene.

So he asks me for a favor: helping him become social and get into some of the scenes I'm in, so that he can meet people.

nod

And I would date him in a heartbeat, but I'm too shy to just come out and say that to him.

Can you drag him out to various things and just..hang out with him and have a good time. Take him on stealth dates so to speak.

I guess that's true. He really wants to start clubbing with me regularly.

Meanwhile, as you are doing that work on using your words and talking to him abou the topi. Float it by him at some point, hell do it now if you feel like. Not exactly saying "I wanna date you"

but "What if we..."

Well, I could also be open about the fact that I'm looking for someone to date right now.

Oh, are you? I didn't realize that.

Yeah, I am. Been kind of looking at it for a while.

If that's the case, then I would go with that.

Aaah.

Nrrg, If I were there. Having a you would be awesome.

<3

But yes, I say go for it, hang out with him, be honest with him and generally try and make him feel comfortable with the idea. Hopefully you'll get some of that comfort level and be able to speak up.

/nodnod

In some fashion or antoehr, whether it be to mention that you're looking for someone or that you'd really like to date him.

I could mention that maybe he could help me find someone.

<3333 Good luck darling. Also, I am generaly alive to the world again, so if you ever want to poke me, feel free.

I kind of jumped off the face of the earth for a bit htere. X_x bad brain days were bad.

Oooh yes.

Good to hear. <3

Though, I'd be careful about how you approach that one because you might make him think you're not interested in him

...oh, that's true.

mrrr

Maire definitely thinks he may be dropping hints.

Oooh. That is promsiing.

Yeahhh. idk. I'm horrible at these things. XD

It's ool, I understand entirely.

Relationships are haaaard. /whines

Unless someone comes out and actually says "Hey, I'm interested in you." I'm pretty "Bzuh whut?" at the whole thing.

Yeahhhh me too.

We win at life.

Pretty much.

yeah I. honestly am not a big fan of the "stealth dates" sort of thing? Mostly because I feel like it could easily just not go well. At least being moderately forward about it doesn't leave one person

doesn't POTENTIALLY totally unaware of anything but friendship while the other tries to figure out how to make it more obvious without being like HI SO THESE HAVE BEEN DATE-LIKE RIGHT? ?

Yeah, that's true.

I'm kind of wondering if I frame it as kind of a joke/teasing, if I can ask him if he's dropping hints.

But at the same time, that could backfire.

"So, this is hilarious, but my friend thinks you're totally dropping hints. I mean, if you are, I'd totally be up to that, but if you're not, I'd be more than happy to get you into the scene.

Well, I'd be happy to get you into the scene either way."

Stupid question and I'm sorry if it upsets you but aren't you in a relationship and isn't that what your living situation is wrapped up in?

We're both poly.

So that's a non-issue. In fact, my girlfriend supports me dating.

(Also, it's not upsetting in the slightest. For most people, it would be a valid point.)

Okay cool then. Because I was like "San...?"

XD Yeah.

San and I are totally still doing well and happy, but she thinks I should be dating so I'm more independent. Coworking has helped that, so we're doing better on that front.