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martika: 我之前的老闆要我回去,賺的不會比現在少,但是應該工作會輕鬆很多
我真的需要換了,因為我覺得我對這個工作的心理的抗拒已經在生理上反應出來了。我最近一直頭疼,體重下降,然後聽到公司某些人或事情就會有想吐的感覺。。。。真的就是很受不了
u have all the classical symptoms of work stress
Feeling anxious, irritable, or depressed
Apathy, loss of interest in work
Problems sleeping
Fatigue
Trouble concentrating
Muscle tension or headaches
Stomach problems
usually we react to stress in a flight or flight mode
adrenaline is pumped into your body to "fight", heartbeat increases, blood pressure goes up, you start to breath in more
imagine 2 boxers in the ring preparing for fight, first thing they do is to tighten their muscles so that it is less painful when somebody hits them
same way, our body muscles tightens, we should neck and shoulder pain, tightness in the chest
headachles or migraine is due to tightening of blood vessels or veins in our brain
when vessels is stretched, there is less oxygen to the brain, so we may feel dizzy
naokikotoko: I've had 2 consecutive migraine attacks in a very short period of time
it will continue to come until u can relax
never been like this before....i couldnt sleep last night
when our body thinks tt we have a war to fight, our body will think that it is not safe to sleep for long
hence, we may have difficulty falling asleep cuz we ruminate about our problems
naokikotoko: that's why i have to move to a different.job.....its not doing anygood to me
or we sleep/wake sleep /wake the whole nite
it's like the body waking up every now n then to check if it is safe to continue sleeping
some people have more fight symptoms some have more flight symptoms
for those with flight symptoms, u may experience sweating
having to run to the toilet
it is the body's way of gettin rid of unwanted stuff to make ur body lighter so u can "run faster"
also when we r fighting or flighting, blood is drawn from other parts of the body (e.g. stomach) and channeled to our limbs
hence in the long run, we have digestion problems
some people have gastric reflux problems
some have bloatedness or difficulty swallowing
too much stress will lead to a drop in mood
then u lose appetite, and motivation
u feel tired cuz of poor quality sleep
u cannot focus due to fatigue and that u r distracted by ur worries
in short, u have the whole package
i literally feel like puking when i hear of someone's name at work......its crazy
puking is also the body trying to get rid of unwanted stuff
i have the hardest time trying to follow relaxation exercises or yoga, becaise my mind just keeps on rushing through things
naokikotoko: the puking thing scares me........ive never had that before in the past
i think change jobs would be good for me for now
even if its not what i want in the lobg run, but for the time being, it might be good for me
i often ask my patients to do the youtube one that i sent u
it is easy enough to follow
usually u can do it before u step into office so u can start work in a more relaxed state
then try and do it again during lunch time to loosen up any tension accumulated from the morning
then do it again before you go home so u can go home feeling more relaxed
u have to practise this when u feel ur stress starting to go up
and not wait till ur stress is very high to be more effective
this track i send is 4 mins, so if u feel nothing after 4 mins, it means u can repeat for another 1-2 times until u feel u are calmer
most of my patients find it helpful, those who doesnt find it helpful is mainly because they found it hard to pace their breathing according to the video
but u can try this track n c
next thing u need to do is to draw up a to do list
divide wat u need to do into 1)urgent/important; 2)urgent/not important, 3)not urgent/important and 4) not urgent/ not important
and u start workin on those that fall under the urgent/important category
then u work on the other categoies
this will help u to feel less overwhelmed when u have a lot to do
next is, u need to decide which task is more difficult, which is easier
but what if my stress comes not from the work itself, its from the ppl, politics, and stuff.around it?
and if u feel more energetic in the morning, u do the difficult task first
office politics is the hardest
do u have any ally at work?
i do have ally, we all feel the same, about our boss, and about the area we work in. we all try to get out.
keep bitching to one other is one way to cope
being task-focused is also good
playing music while workin might help to distract u from the politics that is going on
work fr home is also possible
i really think u should see someone and talk through what is happening
it is hard for me to suggest stuff without knowing wat's going on
im working from home today, i feel so much better when there are no meetings, and i dont have to see those ppl's faces.
i would say go look for a therapist or something
but meanwhile, do the relaxation thing i send u to manage ur stress symptoms
i will ask my friend to suggest a psychologist here.......but im hoping changing a job would make it better
if u dont like this track, there are one milion other tracks, u might juz wanna "shop" around on youtube and see which one is helpful
the one i sent u is the simplest that i hv seen
and i like it cuz it's very short
my pt has not excuse to tell me that they cant find 5 mins to do it
i usu tell them to do it while travelling on the bus or train to work
find a seat, close ur eyes and pretend to be listening to music
nobody will know that u r doing relaxation exercise
ok, thanks, I'll do this at lunch todat
best option is to change job
but even if u resign, u still need to serve notice
so u will need to find way to manage while serving notice
跟我cp鬼蝶也可以让你放松心情!起码可以distract you from your problems!
im hoping i can quit before my vacation, and come back to a new job, haha, wishful thinking
Umi_okok: 你不要要求那么高,9998有机会演谈恋爱,鬼蝶是现实真人真事
martika: 亲妈去台北的时候,我们一定要带她大吃大喝大玩,帮她放松心情!
i think 梳毛 can be quite therapeutic
koaww: 真的!瘋了也好,瘋子一般不是比較快樂!