惜惜。。。加油！

加油加油!!

沒關係，快結束了！我要換工作了！

Umi_okok: 妳要換什麼X?D

martika: 我之前的老闆要我回去，賺的不會比現在少，但是應該工作會輕鬆很多

Umi_okok: 那快換~XD

Umi_okok: 快换+1

快換＋2

快換+3

naokikotoko: biblos: koaww: 快換+4（我們會不會太敷衍 ）

aprillin0507: 我真心的！

我那楼没有鬼蝶加持，感觉好荒凉哦。。。。

naokikotoko: 嗯嗯,

koaww: 昨天终于有鬼蝶，我等一下去歪楼

naokikotoko: 快去，現在有時間

aprillin0507: ok!

我真的需要換了，因為我覺得我對這個工作的心理的抗拒已經在生理上反應出來了。我最近一直頭疼，體重下降，然後聽到公司某些人或事情就會有想吐的感覺。。。。真的就是很受不了

naokikotoko: 快救救我。。。。。

Umi_okok:Breathing Relaxation Exercise try doing this

u have all the classical symptoms of work stress

Feeling anxious, irritable, or depressed
Apathy, loss of interest in work
Problems sleeping
Fatigue
Trouble concentrating Muscle tension or headaches Stomach problems

usually we react to stress in a flight or flight mode

adrenaline is pumped into your body to "fight", heartbeat increases, blood pressure goes up, you start to breath in more

imagine 2 boxers in the ring preparing for fight, first thing they do is to tighten their muscles so that it is less painful when somebody hits them

same way, our body muscles tightens, we should neck and shoulder pain, tightness in the chest

headachles or migraine is due to tightening of blood vessels or veins in our brain

when vessels is stretched, there is less oxygen to the brain, so we may feel dizzy

naokikotoko: I've had 2 consecutive migraine attacks in a very short period of time

it will continue to come until u can relax

never been like this before....i couldnt sleep last night

when our body thinks tt we have a war to fight, our body will think that it is not safe to sleep for long

hence, we may have difficulty falling asleep cuz we ruminate about our problems

naokikotoko: that's why i have to move to a different.job.....its not doing anygood to me

or we sleep/wake sleep /wake the whole nite

icic

it's like the body waking up every now n then to check if it is safe to continue sleeping

naokikotoko: yup!

some people have more fight symptoms some have more flight symptoms

for those with flight symptoms, u may experience sweating

having to run to the toilet

it is the body's way of gettin rid of unwanted stuff to make ur body lighter so u can "run faster"

also when we r fighting or flighting, blood is drawn from other parts of the body (e.g. stomach) and channeled to our limbs

hence in the long run, we have digestion problems

胃痛is one example

some people have gastric reflux problems

some have bloatedness or difficulty swallowing

too much stress will lead to a drop in mood

then u lose appetite, and motivation

u feel tired cuz of poor quality sleep

u cannot focus due to fatigue and that u r distracted by ur worries

in short, u have the whole package

i literally feel like puking when i hear of someone's name at work......its crazy

puking is also the body trying to get rid of unwanted stuff

i have the hardest time trying to follow relaxation exercises or yoga, becaise my mind just keeps on rushing through things

naokikotoko: the puking thing scares me........ive never had that before in the past

i think change jobs would be good for me for now

even if its not what i want in the lobg run, but for the time being, it might be good for me

yea

i often ask my patients to do the youtube one that i sent u

it is easy enough to follow

usually u can do it before u step into office so u can start work in a more relaxed state

then try and do it again during lunch time to loosen up any tension accumulated from the morning

then do it again before you go home so u can go home feeling more relaxed

u have to practise this when u feel ur stress starting to go up

and not wait till ur stress is very high to be more effective

this track i send is 4 mins, so if u feel nothing after 4 mins, it means u can repeat for another 1-2 times until u feel u are calmer

most of my patients find it helpful, those who doesnt find it helpful is mainly because they found it hard to pace their breathing according to the video

but u can try this track n c

ok, tgank you!

next thing u need to do is to draw up a to do list

divide wat u need to do into 1)urgent/important; 2)urgent/not important, 3)not urgent/important and 4) not urgent/ not important

and u start workin on those that fall under the urgent/important category

then u work on the other categoies

this will help u to feel less overwhelmed when u have a lot to do

next is, u need to decide which task is more difficult, which is easier

but what if my stress comes not from the work itself, its from the ppl, politics, and stuff.around it?

and if u feel more energetic in the morning, u do the difficult task first

office politics is the hardest

do u have any ally at work?

i do have ally, we all feel the same, about our boss, and about the area we work in. we all try to get out.

keep bitching to one other is one way to cope

being task-focused is also good

playing music while workin might help to distract u from the politics that is going on

work fr home is also possible

i really think u should see someone and talk through what is happening

it is hard for me to suggest stuff without knowing wat's going on

im working from home today, i feel so much better when there are no meetings, and i dont have to see those ppl's faces.

i would say go look for a therapist or something

but meanwhile, do the relaxation thing i send u to manage ur stress symptoms

i will ask my friend to suggest a psychologist here.......but im hoping changing a job would make it better

if u dont like this track, there are one milion other tracks, u might juz wanna "shop" around on youtube and see which one is helpful

the one i sent u is the simplest that i hv seen

and i like it cuz it's very short

my pt has not excuse to tell me that they cant find 5 mins to do it

i usu tell them to do it while travelling on the bus or train to work

find a seat, close ur eyes and pretend to be listening to music

nobody will know that u r doing relaxation exercise

ok, thanks, I'll do this at lunch todat

best option is to change job

but even if u resign, u still need to serve notice

so u will need to find way to manage while serving notice

=)

跟我cp鬼蝶也可以让你放松心情！起码可以distract you from your problems!

im hoping i can quit before my vacation, and come back to a new job, haha, wishful thinking

我妳咧,我一進來就看到一堆豆芽菜!!!!

Umi_okok: 好吧,二位繼續,親愛的,想想5月要來玩了~

naokikotoko: hahahhaha, 可是他們實在不speak to me 啊

martika: 嗯，對啊，我現在唯一的一絲希望啦，哈哈

Umi_okok: 你不要要求那么高，9998有机会演谈恋爱，鬼蝶是现实真人真事

naokikotoko:

小鬼真的是刚刚开始喜欢蝴蝶不久而已

路还很长。。。

martika: 没有要吓你，而是我不会用中文解释

naokikotoko:

martika: 中文有限，中文有限

martika: 亲妈去台北的时候，我们一定要带她大吃大喝大玩，帮她放松心情！

（其实是自己想大吃大喝大玩）

naokikotoko: 真的要好好放鬆！

Umi_okok: 你去帮摩少梳毛，说不定可以让你心情平静

i think 梳毛 can be quite therapeutic

XDDDDDDDDDDDD

naokikotoko: 魔少的毛好長！

Umi_okok: 長得會梳到瘋? (誤)

koaww: 真的！瘋了也好，瘋子一般不是比較快樂！

Umi_okok: 说不定哦

Umi_okok: 妳是說我瘋了嗎

martika: 秀秀。。。。不是啦

naokikotoko: 就瘋了他吧！

Umi_okok: