it's not that there is anything wrong with the invites but it's not what I would have written. I offered to do a party for a friend who has

taken control of the event. Sent out invites in my name, invited 75 people, set the menu, time and place.

it actually makes less work for me but I am feeling a little bit annoyed. There is also no way to play silly games with 75 people coming.

okay...I will now stop bitching.

75 people?? that's a huge bachelorette party, I'd be a bit miffed, too

it negates what you offered. Annoying.

Not only annoying - you are going to be a guest at your own party pfftttt

plus..the invite (from me) says not to give any money to the homeless downtown (where the party is) something I would never say.

Wow - what a weird thing to say

it's the idea that you should give to homeless providers because the homeless themselves will be irresponsible.

I don't always give money directly to people but sometimes I do...I think once in a while homeless people should have the freedom of money

in their own pockets.

I think it's a way that merchants and municipalities try to cut down on panhandling, too. a bit cynical, maybe?

Funny they would try to regulate what you would want to do. Control much? haha

When I give to the beggars, I check their shoes, if they are worn from walking I know they are really homeless.

I they are new and shiny, they are scammers.

friend once saw a panhandler leave their corner at lunchtime and go home to a house nearby...

There is no doubt that some panhandlers are scammers and make some interesting money doing it.

It is also true that there are many that really don't have anything much more than what you see them with.

The best answer I heard was "give what you believe to be right. Even if they are scamming, should you change your generosity based on

thinking that somebody might be unworthy?"

prefers to buy them food directly. hunger is hunger

nods

sometimes I buy an extra taco just for that purpose.