not yet - I don't think. I'd give it a couple of years. Boy am I glad my kids are 23, 29, 34 and 37

WOW - good for you. I'm agreeing with you, of course.

you know, I am not a parent, but I really like the point about kids getting an understanding of the implications of their actions before

getting online. I read a horrific story in New York Magazine about a private high school where a group of kids, boys, were doing all sorts

of inappropriate things online and when the school brought attention to it, the parents felt the school was violating their children's

privacy. I couldn't believe that. Those kids and their parents thought that future schools, employers would never see that. Fascinating.

I gotta say -- It made me re-evaluate my kid.. I was like, Wow... her world has def. grown up, even if she hasn't. Thanks, Deb.

I have friends who are teachers and they are often talking about how kids seem to be rushed into adulthood- clothing is always a big topic-

how little girls' clothing is becoming sexualized.

Yeah, I know. My daughter as 11 going on 41 is even a reaction to that.. she is weirdly prudish, when she should just be.. I dunno.. normal!

You know what I mean?

I know what you mean. Although kids definitely go through some transition around 10 or 11. When I was a camp counselor, I always asked

to get the 8 & 9 yo's cabin. They were uninhibited about picking up snakes, didn't care what boys thought yet. Would dare one another to do

brave things, then....that all changes around 11. Such a downer...

OMG.. exactly.

I am a parent - and no. 11 is too young. There is no reason for 11 year olds to be collecting friends and online experiences on Facebook

Agreed

it'd be handy if the kid had faraway friends previously (like from living in another area, etc.) - but if all of her friends are local,

it doesn't quite seem necessary, at least not yet.

I think you're the parent and you know your child's maturity level. If you decide they can handle it you definitely need to be a part of ...

that world with them. More parents need to actively join along side of their kids. Teach them to navigate the waters correctly before...

sending them out to sea. Facebook, for the kids who can handle it, is a great tool for being active in your kids' world. As with anything...

trust your instincts. If your gut is doubting the move then don't do it but explain that to your child. Yes I have two small sons and...

I worry what their world will be like. We need a lot more prayers going up on their and our behalf. It doesn't only take a village...

it also takes God. Best to you.

If you allow it, stay active with her and monitor usage. She is going to learn to use tools like facebook. So teach here and let