from the person yelling, and i sit there. becuase in my past experience doing anything only makes it worse. I am at a crossroads and i dont

know where to turn, left, right, forward and back all look the same to me, and they all lead to heartache.

That sounds silly. How would someone you're dating know that unless they are yelling at you, which they shouldn't be doing.

he was yelling.

because i wasent saying anything, which all leads in a big stupid circle

he has ADHD and he gets mad easy, but i dont know where to draw the line between his disability and bad choices

i HATE yelling i rold him that from the begging i just freeze, so he kinda always knew. But still, i never thought he'd yell hateful things

i'm just lost and i love him and the thought of life without him breaks my heart but i WILL NOT be yelled at, by him or anyone else

I hate yelling too, it makes me cry and back down and therefor in unfair in an argument. Sometimes I will change my whole story just because

I'm being yelled at and want to just get out of the situation. And that's not good. You should wait until his temper isn't at it's peak and

talk to him about it. Then if he yells again, continue not talking... and wait again 'til he's calm. Eventually he might learn that yelling

i know, i just cant do it. i just want it to stop and even if that means runing away ill do it

isn't helping. And if he doesn't....

i told him that he is never allowed to yell at me agian

When he was calm?

and if he does i will fight the pain of looseing him because i refuse to allow anyone in my life to treat me like that anymore

yea

he dropped me off at my house adn after i calmed down too i called him

and told himt aht

Hurrah! Good for you. It's hard, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do for you.

that*

when someone yells at me I seriously turn into a dog with my tail between my legs. I don't say anything and my eyes go straight for the

see thats what i do too and that seemed to make him even more angry

floor. It really sucks at times when I want to defend myself but find it better to cower. You can't help what your reaction to being yelled

at is going to be. :/

i think its because he doesnt think hes yelling, but he is

yea its not much i can do, sometimes i just wish i could fight, but thats just not who i am

Yeah. But eventually he might realize that he can't yell at you, it's not going to make you talk. He needs to learn to walk away and recoop.

after today if he yells again im gone

people who tend to be yellers often don't realize that it just makes the situation worse. He should calm down and just talk to you.

i think hes gonna think twice about it now, i hope. but it really does only hurt the situation

i am usually sad or scared and then i get mad, so after he drops me off i call him and im pissed but hes calmed down

lmfao we are complete opposites in just about everyway u could be

and the sadest part was now he reminds me of my abusive ex boyfriends, he siad some really hurtful things taht were ment to hurt

oh he got mad because of something else something stupid

but mostly because i cowerd and didnt stand up and fight

That's another no no... bringing up other crap when you're fighting about something else. Like ammo.

that was really made him angry and the more i did it the angrier he got, and i dont get it

oh yeah i just shut up i do remeber calling him a jackass but taht was about it

i just dont get why me not 'acknowledging him' made him worse

and i think he was saying anything he could to get me to look at him and fight back

You know... when I clam up light that, I find it easier to talk on like a text basis. Through a messenger or something. I know it sounds

silly but I think it's sometimes an easier way to argue. I don't have to hear him get frustrated and he doesn't have to hear me cry.

oh man what is it with guys and crying, its the only thing thats makes them realise they were just complete jackasses and feel sorry

and yes i do enjoy arguing more in text form but my sarcasium isnt well recieved sadly

I don't really like doing it when we're fighting because I just end up sounding like a blubbering baby.

sometimes i cant help it, and sometimes i do it on purpose cause then he like snapsoutta asshole mode for a milisecond

i just dont enjoy fighting

I think in my case eventually the effect that crying has might wear off, because I do have a tendency to do it too often.

and on occasions i have cryed while being yelled at and it can make things worse or better depending on the person

you know i never used to cry, i didnt even cry at my grandmas funeral, but now i do it all the time wierdest thing, even watchign TV

well i wanted to cry but held it in cause my familys all 'crying is a sign of weakness'

Yeah me too. But a lot of mine is hormonal I think... I'm a mess 99% of the time. Sometimes I make up crap to get cranky about and then

start crying, lol.

lol, sometimes i cry just because brian trys to make it stop

he does anything he can to make me stop its like nails on a chalk board to him

lol

No Spudgy just has to say "what's wrong" to open up the flood gates.

and in our relationship i dont often hear thakn you or get appriciation or affection and its nice to get him to do that once in awhile

Anyways, I keep chatting here when I'm 'sposed to be going to bed.

Ni ni.

awwww. then they give u that wierd look like ur an alien and they dont know what to do

goodnight thanks for chatting