but grandma is currently in Texas since she moved there to be with her new husband and won't visit until Christmas, and one of my aunts just passed, and all us adult kids are always busy
I've been pretty lucky in that throughout my years doing Thanksgiving with mom's side of the family, everyone has been good about sticking with a "no politics" rule (and most people in the fam are some shade of liberal anyway) so this holiday's had pleasant memories for me