Like I was gonna bring by fresh soup made in house that day, and they're like: nah lets get this one full of preservatives thats the same brand instead.

And it feels a little like my mom is undercutting my offer in a way. Like oh you were going to bring me something? how can I turn this around so I'm giving something to you?

I dunno, I'm just annoyed.

And I'm getting my fresh damn soup and they can reheat their shitty mass produced stuff

treat yourself with Fresh Goddamn Soup.

Yeah that’s definitely still them trying to maintain control for no reason

My mom is SO WEIRD about this stuff. Like she gets anxiety if she's not doing stuff for me every waking moment. It drives me nuts.

oof. yeah, especially if that's a pattern, nothing about the annoyance is irrational

so today they were out of the green onion dip I normally get for snacks, so I got a different one and it's not that great. So I messaged my mom who also likes green onion dip to be like "I tried this other one, pass if they're out of the good stuff"
And instead of having any sort of normal reaction she messaged me back that

she'll come over right away DURING A TORRENTIAL DOWNPOUR AND FLOODING because she has some of the other green onion dip.

so I had to yell at her to not fucking do that because wtf? I was just saying this one isn't very good, it wasn't a plea for help? and also green onion dip is not an emergency? We're having a bomb cyclone with warnings to stay off the roads and she wants to drive over here to bring me green onion dip.

I want to know wtf is wrong with her where she thinks any of this is remotely normal.

Sob TOO much attention. I think a lot of people (well, afab people) in our parents’ generation dedicated their entire life to BEING A MOTHER or whatever and with an adult child they have no clue how to get any other identity back so they just double down