Alexceptional
2 months ago
[Health and good ol' misconceptions]: Finally got an RA doctor and it went as expected!
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Alexceptional
2 months ago
It's kind of weird, because my illness and disability -when it is a disability- is invisible
Alexceptional
2 months ago
But when I go to these appointments it's like FULL DISPLAY HELLO YES IT IS I, AUTO-IMMUNE DISEASE LOVELY TO SEE YOU.
Alexceptional
2 months ago
My medical records are ??? long lost in the chaos from my mother's passing, to moving around in more recent years. So the doctors only have my word to go off of
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Alexceptional
2 months ago
They never question, they take me at my word but it's always with a hint of ....... curiosity
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Like old fashioned curiosity
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Like a circus kind of curiosity
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Also, I swear this happens every time
Alexceptional
2 months ago
I'm sitting in the waiting room, my dad tagged along
Alexceptional
2 months ago
He is, indeed, a senior citizen
Alexceptional
2 months ago
And he got up to use the restroom and another kind elderly lady smiles at me and says "it's so sweet of you. Are you taking him to see the doctor?"
Alexceptional
2 months ago
I smiled and as politely as I could tried to say I was the patient
Alexceptional
2 months ago
And she immediately was like "oh my god, I can't believe it, you're so young"
Alexceptional
2 months ago
MA'AM.....................................
Alexceptional
2 months ago
If I got a nickel, no. A PENNY for every time I heard that I would be a literal millionaire
Alexceptional
2 months ago
So the actual appointment was also odd lol
Alexceptional
2 months ago
The nurse who was with me initially to do vitals and all that was trying real hard to relate
Alexceptional
2 months ago
But her go-to for relating to my condition was her grandmother lmao
Alexceptional
2 months ago
WHICH IS FAIR and you know, it wasn't awkward
Alexceptional
2 months ago
And she clearly looks after her grandmother so that's honestly fine but lol
Alexceptional
2 months ago
She was definitely around my age and her only bridge for understanding were things her grandmother had said
Alexceptional
2 months ago
TO BE FAIR
Alexceptional
2 months ago
When asked about pain level I said 2-3. Because it was going to rain and I could feel it
Alexceptional
2 months ago
And that's like. An actual thing. But obviously, elderly also have a tendency to say that so I walked into that one
Alexceptional
2 months ago
And I just wanna say, no one was directly rude
Alexceptional
2 months ago
It's just a little tiresome
Alexceptional
2 months ago
And I just wanna whine
Alexceptional
2 months ago
So the doctor was kind, we had to go over medical history verbally since my records are ???
Alexceptional
2 months ago
But this is a doctor that typically doesn't see people younger than 60 on a regular basis
Alexceptional
2 months ago
So she would ask a factual question "when were you diagnosed"
Alexceptional
2 months ago
I'd respond
Alexceptional
2 months ago
And she would break into a "that must've been really hard on you"
Alexceptional
2 months ago
It's the weird pity that gets to me
Alexceptional
2 months ago
And it's strange coming from someone where this is all they work with and they'd still say that. BUT it's complicated
Alexceptional
2 months ago
I think when you (this is a generalization) when you are young and you get this kind of "life-altering" diagnosis then you can more easily bounce back. Because you don't have a normal yet and you'll just get embedded in this normal
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Like, for me. Achey joints and swollen knees and fingers are a norm and I have to be mindful of them and fevers and colds and anything that can tilt my immune system off-balance
Alexceptional
2 months ago
And that's just. Life
papermint tiger
2 months ago
i feel like this is something people who don't live with or in immediate proximity to a chronic illness just don't seem to get, including doctors
Alexceptional
2 months ago
But I also can imagine that for those who have a normal and a routine and it's good and it's manageable and then they get a diagnosis like an auto-immune disease where they now feel like life has eggshells under it that it can be hard to adjust and you might be remorseful your normal isn't what it was
Alexceptional
2 months ago
YEAH....
papermint tiger
2 months ago
you have to find a way to live around it or you don't have any life at all
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Not even around, you gotta live with it
Alexceptional
2 months ago
I mean. This is my normal. It has been my normal since I was 6, I don't know another normal
papermint tiger
2 months ago
my gf faces a lot of issues where people don't believe she's in pain because she remains pretty cheerful despite her baseline pain being a 4
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Yeah, I completely get that
papermint tiger
2 months ago @Edit 2 months ago
yeah you're right, you have to live with it
Alexceptional
2 months ago
When it's your norm, you don't get to mope. This is it. Forever. lol
papermint tiger
2 months ago
yeah
Alexceptional
2 months ago
So maybe.. this doctor is more used to giving bad news
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Like I'm sorry ma'am but you have a chronic illness, here's how your life will change
Alexceptional
2 months ago
And the reaction is likely ... the patient being upset
Alexceptional
2 months ago
So I'm guessing that's the case here?
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Idk, the best RA doctor I had was the one I had as a kid. He didn't do anything except treat me like a kid. He'd have these annual picnics with all the other patients
Alexceptional
2 months ago
AND AS A KID it was the coolest thing because I got to meet kids that were like me BUT
Alexceptional
2 months ago
WE DIDN'T CARE
papermint tiger
2 months ago
hopefully that's what it is
Alexceptional
2 months ago
It wasn't a talking point
Alexceptional
2 months ago
We just were like Hi. Let's play and if one of us gets hurt we stop and run to the doctor lmao
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Instead of having to explain "I can't run, I have arthritis" or "I can't do monkey bars, falling would be bad" etc
Alexceptional
2 months ago
No need to explain, they just. Get it.
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Because we're all in the same boat
Alexceptional
2 months ago
BUT ANYWAY
Alexceptional
2 months ago
The doctor was kind but out of touch with how to handle a patient my age that's had it for.... nearly 30 years
Alexceptional
2 months ago
She ordered blood work (a normal thing) and x-rays (another normal thing)
Alexceptional
2 months ago
She worried I would hate needles which surprised me
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Because with RA you have to get blood work (while medicated) once a month, and some medications like the biologics are needles once a week
Alexceptional
2 months ago
So some with RA that have had it since they were little have a phobia of needles as a result
Alexceptional
2 months ago
This ... actually surprised me because I had the opposite reaction of I don't have a phobia, but I need to look
Alexceptional
2 months ago
If you are poking me then I need to see it. Idk why, that's just my brain and has been since this was my norm
Alexceptional
2 months ago
The only thing I was like eeeeeee...
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Were the x-rays. It's another normal thing. My fingers are fucked, basically. And doctors are just fascinated with them
Alexceptional
2 months ago
But x-rays are uncomfortable because my pinky is permanently bent and it's hard to x-ray something that won't straighten so they usually have to tape my fingers to a surface and it's uncomfy and a bit embarrassing
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Luckily, the imaging people were really chill and did not tape my fingers
Alexceptional
2 months ago
They did comment about it and I laughed and said "well, that's why I'm here I think"
Alexceptional
2 months ago
FAIR right
Alexceptional
2 months ago
But I initially was a bit when the doctor asked if I'd be good to x-ray
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Obviously I agreed to it, but I did voice that the tape was unfun
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Anyway, next visit is next year if everything is chill and no flare-ups come around
Alexceptional
2 months ago
I do get flare-ups, I'm bracing for one this weekend
Alexceptional
2 months ago
But I can usually combat it with naproxen sodium and ice
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Renn faire this weekend and it's going to be cold and a lot of walking so my joints are going to be angy
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Anyways, if you meet a young person and they say they have arthritis... believe them! Thank you for coming to my TED Talk
papermint tiger
2 months ago
i have a relatively tiny mouth so I understand being pouty over x-rays
papermint tiger
2 months ago
those stupid thick plastic things HURT
papermint tiger
2 months ago
and jab into my mouth in awful ways
Alexceptional
2 months ago
Lol ya, depending on the kind of x-ray it can be really painful
Alexceptional
2 months ago
It's not fun
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