This is too much like how my parents met wtf

We do different things in the school but I talk to him all the time and he confessed to me today I’m like

AT WORK???? BRUH

YES but this is how my parents met XD

He doesn’t bother me it’s just a surprise idk how to feel!

I don’t get this often I normally get asked about my work friends not me so I’m like ???

Well, think about how you feel. that's all that matters here.

Or well. It's the first thing that matters. You can tell him you need time to think about it

I did so he’s cool about that thankfully

He’s definitely nicer than the other times I’ve been hit on at work but

❤️

Hugs

It's okay if you're still unhappy about it. He doesn't need to have done anything wrong for this to be something you don't want.

Like! Not that you are, but I wanna stress that, because there's a lot of Societal expectations here that can apply pressure.

I'm very very demi so it was sometimes hard for me to tell whether there was any potential for feelings or not. I stuck around a couple of relationships trying to feel something I didn't feel because they were nice people.

Meanwhile the person I am currently dating, I developed a lil crush on her after a few months of casual chatting and she figured me out and wasn't sure what SHE felt so she said she wanted to get to know me better, and we hung out a lot more, and eventually were dating.

Yeah! It’s like a cross between me going “yeah right” and stopping my anxiety brain from working overtime he does want to get to know me

I've ALSO had someone ask me out and gotten an immediate gut "no" reaction. So X3 even for just one person there's a whole spectrum

Aww

I'd say if you think there's any possibility you might want to date him, getting to know him better is a strong start 🙂

I want to say "worst case scenario you have a new friend". But not everyone works that way. Even if he's not secretly a big jerk, rejection hurts, and he might want space if you decide you don't want to date him later.

Yeah I don’t have a bad feeling about him so that’s good normally I have a knee jerk reaction but not this time it’s more of a shock like ???

On the other hand, that bridge has already been crossed. If he isn't okay with being just a friend, he's already not going to want to be friends now, so nothing to lose, UNLESS he's a secret jerk.

Yeah. FEELINGS ARE HARD

Let’s hope he’s not!

Give yourself time and space ❤️

FEELINGS ARE HARD

Fingers crossed >> but seriously most guys are actually nice ❤️

Yeah that’s true too I just have to remember that too

It’s more of I’m not used being the one to be asked out so I’m like huh?

hope all goes well

no advice on how to handle it though lol i can't do that kind of thing myself

zidian: thanks! I’m still like me? You sure? Along with reminding myself that I’m sure it will go well hopefully

I’m still like ??? Because I was casual today like no makeup my hair isn’t even pinned back that I’m like 0-0

like my self esteem is much higher but having someone approach me and give me their number still makes me go me???

it's also calming down anxiety brain

OH SUNNY

hugs you tightly!!

feelings are hard but also!!! please know that you're very easy to like

you're kind, sweet, funny and all around wonderful!

kamisato: QING FEELINGS ARE SO HARD and brains are weird!

THESE TWO THINGS ARE VERY TRUE

Weh!! I keep reminding myself that but it’s hard not to be like “there are so many people prettier than me” ><

i've just been that friend that sits back while my other friends get hit on that when it does happen to me I'm like a deer in headlights because I don't expect it

Thanks Qing! just fingers crossed it goes easily!

So coming back here for a little update still talking and texting but it's slow which I like but it's also surprising after dealing with the other guys so it's going okay so far?

my new work friend is loving this since she realized it before me lol

well not new we worked together now for about 3 years still she's excited XD