Like folks. I'm queer. I burned the closet down long ago. I'm transmasc. Bi, pan? Whatevs. And VERY on the grey/demi aro spectrum. (Plz I have annoyance with almost never crushing but finding people hot too quick afshs)
Also I didn't come out until my 30s. I could never have come out while living with or working with my mom. I didn't even understand that it was possible to be me. Even while in the closet for aspects without the complete picture. So it's okay if you aren't ready to be out.
It's also okay if your identity shifts with time. It's all getting to know yourself in that moment of time. We change. We aren't static throughout our lives so it's natural.