The state of fandom is someone on twitter sharing an image of their birthday cake with ao3 tags on it -- and they even said they went with vanilla tags (so no dead dove) and they put some pretty average canon ships, het and people are dragging this girl over it.
lmao tbh as a bi woman who heavily leans towards women i go through long stretches where i can't get into any ships that don't have at least one girl in them