he thought rolling down the window of the front passenger seat would be enough to let me know that I needed to pick up the groceries through the window

it was not

the thing of cookies fell on the ground and opened and spilled

and now it's my fucking fault that that happened because he didn't just tell me "there's groceries against the door, so don't open it"

it's just, I've told him, after other examples of this, to just tell me things

he know that, especially when I'm tired, I don't make inferences well

I miss shit

even obvious shit

so yes, tell me things, spell it out, state the obvious

because I may well have not noticed

I forgot my phone on Tuesday for fuck sake, if you think I've been more rested since then, you would be wrong