An uncle of mine, my late mother's eldest sister's husband, has offered me a job to teach English as a way to work toward licensure
But there's a few ..... big downsides
I HAVE NOTHING AGAINST PA. Hello, whole family born and raised Philly
But I am just happy with being in VA again, tbh
But also the job itself iiiiiis
Of a religion I do not practice (but my uncle thinks I do because I am sweet and kind and obviously that means I must be good at said religion?)
But also this uncle iiiis
Ah. Well. Hmn. It's hard to explain. But I may hold a grudge
This uncle and aunt cut off their son, my cousin and godfather, because he came out as gay to them.
AND WHILE I HAVE NEVER CONFIRMED this with them directly, my uncle who passed over the summer (younger brother to said aunt, only brother to my mother) let it slip one time and it makes a lot of sense I don't think he was trying to stir drama from nothing
They have since reconciled with my cousin. He even attended the funeral of the uncle who spilled the beans. But I wasn't really able to talk with him. I was too shocked to see him
Before that funeral I hadn't seen him since I was about 8 or 9 years old. So a good quarter century of no contact
The woman was too stunned to speak.
Anyway, I bring this up because, while I am veery glad my aunt and uncle have tried to reconcile with my cousin because their health is failing and they are old and they wanted that peace FOR THEMSELVES before they die
I don't think I could work for a religious group that encouraged their initial actions in the first place
My uncle is a pastor at this religious school
He has a lot of .. sway on making a teaching position for me happen. It's very sweet of him. I can see him wanting what's best for me very much
honestly....................................
even if it's coming from a place of good intentions i'd still be aaa at working at a religious school where i dont practice the religion and knowing how he treated his son
Yeah, I think that's kind of where I'm at
But I think I'll have to turn him down with "I'd rather be in VA right now"
Which isn't wrong, but it's not even scratching the truth as to why
Honestly, if it was at any other school I would probably consider
Because on the other hand, it's a good way to at least use that family connection to reconnect with my cousin
But just the religion being what caused the disconnect in the first place, I just don't think I could do it. I'd be bitter and resentful
Which is kinda weird because, again, the initial cut off happened when I was smol and being smol I was never told why and he just disappeared from conversation and became taboo to mention
My mom said "he did something bad" I remember that when I asked about it
She was also very religious
The world has changed a lot though since she passed in 2003, I can't hold the glimpses of ignorance I witnessed as a kid against her
Also she dead so
But anyway, OOF. I feel like it's an opportunity missed because I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE MONEY but
I guess I'll stick to what I'm doing now
honestly, even without the religion thing, I would have personally skipped it because nepotism hires always spell trouble
Yeeeeeeeeaaaaah the potential for problems is high
if it was just a "the place I work has an opening" that would be one thing, even with the person being family, but if he has sway on the position existing and who fills it, that's giving me all sorts of red flags
From my understanding, they have a position for English opening up in the Fall so he was essentially offering to put my name into the list even though I don't have the qualifications (licensure) that they would want
I think because they aren't a public school it kind of bypasses the usual state requirements? I honestly don't really understand it
But I do agree, his position in relation to the school and the offer to push me through the process is concerning
yeah, if they don't get state funding or federal funding, then they don't have to meet the standers set by them, for better of worse